People often forget how stressful being a new mom can be. That, or they don’t talk much about it, because moms are often expected to be filled with indestructible joy and energy about their new family member. As her friend, you may wonder what you can do to help her keep her energy and spirits up. Here are a few tips!
The new mom is probably going to feel a little bit guilty; after all, she’s probably being inundated with well-wishes and questions about herself and the baby, mostly over the likes of text and Facebook. The truth is that she probably doesn’t have too much time to respond, and certainly not in as much detail as she’d like! So remember to be patient and forgiving – especially because she may be a bit rushed or agitated when you do manage to get through to her!
Arrange things with others
No, I’m not saying you should make plans to go out with other people that purposefully exclude the new mom! You simply need to keep communication with them because you don’t want to end up stressing her out. For example, a popular thing to do is make and deliver dinner to the new mom, something she can heat up later so she doesn’t have to do too much cooking herself. But sometimes, due to a lack of arrangement, several friends end up making food at around the same time, so your friend is left with more food than she can handle!
Gifts for both of them
The first thing people usually think about is buying gifts for the baby. And this is certainly something you should consider – it will make the new mom beam as much as the baby! But you may also want to consider bringing a little something for mom, too. Personalized items for friends and their kids is something you should look into. It doesn’t have to be anything big – even some make-up or some candy would probably go down a treat (provided you’re not buying the baby make-up, too!)
Plan something for the near-future
Your friend has her hands full, and it’s unlikely she’ll have much time to go out and do something with you. Of course, that may depend largely on how available the father or her partner is! Whatever the case, make no assumptions. Ask her if she’d like to go do something soon, even if it’s just catch a movie or go out for a coffee. If she’s too busy, then make sure you set a rough date for sometime in the near-future!
A helping hand
Last, but definitely not least. Perhaps the best thing you can do is offer a helping hand. Helping out with the dishes or any other cleaning tasks would probably mean the world to her! You could also offer to watch the baby if only for a little bit while mom gets a chance to have a long shower or bath. Taking chores off her hands will help her deal with the stress of being a new mom!