Before you were a parent (and while you were pregnant), the chances are that you took self-care extremely seriously. However, now that you are a mom and your whole life revolves around your little ones, the majority of your self-care has probably gone out of the window.
While it’s perfectly normal to have very little time for yourself when you are a mom, the problem is that a lack of self-care can have serious consequences for both your physical and emotional well-being. The fact is that it is important to take care of yourself because as a mom you are under a lot of pressure, and pressure can have an impact on your wellness.
Don’t think you are worth taking care of or that everyone else should always come first? Look at it this way; you are the center of your family’s world, you are (probably) your children’s main care giver. You are important; you matter a lot. You are worthy of good self-care.
Bearing that in mind, below are four ways that moms don’t take care of themselves like they should do, and tips for how you can change that and ensure that you get all of the self-care that you need.
- Making no time for themselves
Far too many moms focus purely on the needs of their family, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing but can end up having a negative impact. If you don’t make time for yourself and your needs, you can’t expect to have a healthy mind and body. Whether it’s just 10 minutes each day to sit down with a cup of tea and a magazine or half an hour to practice pilates, it doesn’t matter, all that matters is that you are getting some time for yourself, to do what makes you happy.
- Not taking care of their health
Your health should always come before anything else. The truth is that if you aren’t in the best health possible, you can’t provide your children with the best care possible. That is why taking care of your health (both physical and mental) is so important. For your physical health, eat well and follow a clean diet – by cutting out junk food and refined sugar you will be healthier and will have more energy, so it’s something that is worth doing. Make sure that as well as eating well, you also drink plenty of water, to keep yourself hydrated. Not a fan of plain water? Opt for flavored water instead, such as strawberry, peach, or lime water, or infuse your own water at home. Don’t make the mistake of failing to look after your health, because it will have an impact in one way or another.
- Letting stress take over
Stress is a part of family life and one that you need to learn how to handle effectively. Everyone has their own coping methods when it comes to stress, which is why it is so vital that you learn what works for you when it comes to alleviating stress. While some people swear by exercise, others find that the best stress reliever for them is a bubble bath, glass of wine and a feel good movie. How you choose to reduce your stress levels is up to you, just make sure to make an effort to do so. Stress can have a huge impact on your health and well-being, which is why it’s so important to take dealing with it seriously.
- Not teaching the kids to help
Once your little one can walk and talk, it’s important to start asking them to help around the house. Obviously, their chores should be age appropriate, but every child from two or three years old should learn to help. Whether it’s simply putting their toys away or helping you to fold the washing, it’s important that you teach your children from a young age that helping is a part of life and is something that you expect from them.
There you have it, four ways that moms don’t take care of themselves like they should do, and hacks for changing that.