Stress affects every one of us. It’s something we cannot escape from, and it occurs in every aspect of our lives. At work, at home, and in our relationships, stress can rear its ugly head and affect the way we think, react, and feel. Emotionally, stress makes us feel sad, angry, and fearful. Mentally, we can become low and depressed. Physically, stress produces aches and pains in our bodies, and our heart rate and blood pressure can rise. Stress is a constant, and while we can’t get away from it for long, we still need to find ways to defeat this sometimes crippling problem.
Stress can be overcome. You may want to try relaxation techniques to control your breathing, embark on an exercise to pump up those feel-good chemicals known as endorphins, or visit a professional physical therapist, such as Bodyworks, who will relieve the physical symptoms of stress through physiotherapy. You should also get to the root cause of why you are feeling stressed, and if necessary, confront the problem.
In this article, we will look at another way of dealing with stress. Changing your mindset. Detaching yourself from stress, with a new way of thinking about the situation, is possible. With the use of some expert quotes, we will tell you how.
“You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think” – A.A. Milne (author)
Spoken by Christopher Robin in the famed Winnie the Pooh children’s books, the author’s words are relevant to anybody who feels lost within the confines of a stressful life. When you feel stressed, you lose sense of who you are. You are weakened mentally, and it can be easy to forget the ‘real you’ in amongst your doubts, fears, and insecurities. Therefore, take a step back, and get some perspective on the matter. Remember the times when you have faced other obstacles in your life, be they people, situations, or inward issues. Somehow, you survived them and possibly beaten those challenges into submission. If you did it before, you can do it again. So gather your strength and intuition, value the experience you are currently going through, and charge ahead, knowing that you will only become stronger as a result.
“Once you accept, truly accept, that stuff will happen to you, and there is nothing you can do about it, stress miraculously leaves your life” – Srikumar Rao (professional speaker)
Spoken by an expert on stress management, Rao teaches us about submission. Once we understand that there will always be stress in our lives, we can begin to form a positive mindset to help us deal with the fact. There are things in our life that we cannot change, and once we accept that, we will spend less time worrying about them. Accept the person or situation for what it is, and only deal with the aspects of your life that are changeable.
“The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.” – Sydney J. Harris (American journalist)
A busy life can often lead to stress, leaving us feeling exhausted, prone to insomnia, and suffering from burnout. It’s important to take a step back and gain control over our faculties again. Taking time to rest or go on vacation will give you the resources to find your true self and gain clarity on why you were feeling so stressed in the first place. When you return to the situation after a time away, you can come back to it with fresh eyes and a new attitude to better deal with the issues you were facing.
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” – Gandhi (civil rights leader)
People are a major cause of stress in our lives, particularly when they do something that hurts us. While we hope they will change and apologize for their words and actions, there is no guarantee that they will. The anger inside of ourselves will only twist and increase if left to fester, adding to the stress we feel. Therefore, let go and forgive. This is easier said than done, but if you can forgive somebody, they will no longer have a hold over your life. Remember, you can’t control others, but you can be responsible for what you do and say. Taking a step back to let your anger diffuse will lead to a calmer situation, with less stressful consequences.
“Do not anticipate trouble or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight.” – Benjamin Franklin (American revolutionary)
In short, be in the ‘here and now.’ You can’t change the past, and as Franklin said, you can’t anticipate the future. Often, we dwell on what might happen and focus on the negative rather than the positive. In the process, we forget about the present, the person we could be now, and the people around us who matter. Therefore, be in the ‘now’. Look at the aspects of your life that are going well, and be thankful for them. By all means, change anything that can be changed, but don’t worry about tomorrow. Enjoy each day, dealing with the challenges that present themselves to you, but don’t worry unduly about the days to come. Often, things won’t as bad as your mind had imagined.
“Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line.” – Lucille Ball (actress)
This is the most important line of all. In a world where we can be so easily judged by others, it can be hard to love ourselves. We might also unfairly compare ourselves to others. However, once you have accepted who you are, warts and all, you will find peace in yourself. Once you acknowledge your self-worth, things will fall into place. People will begin to accept you, and you will accept yourself. And If people judge you for being yourself? Forget about them, they probably aren’t worth worrying about. Remind yourself that you are special, you are worthy, you are capable of love and of being loved. You are who you are, and you can make the world a better place by being a part of it, no matter how challenging life can be at times.
It isn’t easy to gain inner peace, but once you have changed your mindset, you should find stress will affect you less. Be kind to yourself, and be kind to others. Seek help when you need to, and be there for those people who value you.