Sometimes life can test us, wouldn’t you agree? So often we can compare our life to pack of cards. Some hands you are dealt are life-changing and winning opportunities, others are sent to test us or certainly seek out our best poker face to get through. Life is challenging, there is no shying away from that fact. So what happens when tragedy strikes? Maybe you have lost a loved one, a marriage is ending or you have been involved in an accident that has left you with life-changing injuries, these are all things that can have an adverse effect on us. When the hand you have been dealt right now isn’t looking to promising there really is only two ways you can handle it, feel sorry for yourself or take ownership and move forward. I wanted to share with you some of the ways you can move forward when tragedy has struck. I hope it offers inspiration and hope that things can and will get better.
Fix what can be fixed
In some cases fixing something sounds extremely simple and often it isn’t as easy as that, I understand that. But fixing something can come in all shapes and sizes. For example, a tragic accident leaving you with a painful back injury could mean that a simple positive step to see a spine doctor could improve your lifestyle dramatically. Opening up a line of communication between you and loved one could be the positive step for reconciliation. A job loss can be fixed by being proactive with hunting for a new one. Money problems can be solved with budgeting and taking ownership for your current situation. I understand that not all situations can be fixed, but you can choose to take the right steps forward.
Acceptance can be a vital step
As previously pointed out, often in some cases things can’t be fixed. The loss of a loved one or family member can be devastating, and you can’t exactly bring them back into your life, but acceptance of this time could be the positive step to take to move forward. Perhaps a relationship has broken down for good, maybe something unforgivable was done, so accepting instead of feeling hatred or hurt could be the ideal next move to make. It’s important to understand what you can do and what you can’t. But acceptance in both parts is a vital step.
Positivity can get you far
Positivity is something that has already been mentioned and it is something that can get you far with the process of moving forward and taking ownership of your life after tragedy. Negativity breeds negativity and you may find that the black hole you feel you are in now is only going to get worse if you wallow in self-pity. Make a habit of a positive thought process and don’t allow yourself to dwell for too long on anything negative.
Start taking care of you
Finally, start by taking care of yourself a little more. Accept when you need time, indulge in what makes you feel good and take care of yourself. No one can run on empty and it is vital to fill yourself up with your own fuel of positivity and energy. That might come from a long soak in the bath or some time doing a hobby you enjoy. Look at what you love and enjoy and make time for more of it. You will be a better person for it.