Hello all!! Welcome back to another great week! I took this weekend off for myself and it was amazing! My husband took care of the kiddos on his own for a night and I got to check into a hotel for some mommy away time. It was incredible and I’ll be talking about it in another post soon.
I hope you have all been having a great time cleaning OUT your homes and getting them organized. Are you feeling a bit lighter and are you having more clarity with your thoughts? It is just so amazing what we can do for our health when we clear out the clutter.
Now that our homes have it all together, it is time to turn our focus or getting our lives organized. I know what you are thinking, can I really get it together? Yes, you can! Will it be perfect everyday? NO! That’s the beauty of life, none of us are perfect, but we can all try our best each day.
The first thing I began doing at the end of 2018 and starting into 2019 was really looking at all of the various events, projects, hobbies, and just general stuff I was trying to do. What conclusion did I come to? I can’t do it all. No one can, and we are going to wear ourselves out trying. I was simply trying to do too much, and it was really stressing me out and bringing me down. I want you to take some time to do a little life audit of your own. What is on your plate? What can you take off?
One thing I have started trying to implement into my planning, if it isn’t a “heck yes” it’s a “heck no” when looking at events, projects, etc. I used to be the type of person who would say yes to pretty much everything. Don’t get me wrong, I love helping; I just found that’s actually what started bringing me down. I began putting everyone else’s needs before my own. I would exhaust myself trying to plan or help with multiple events, projects, etc and it felt like I could just never stop and take a breath.
From there I looked at the various things I was trying to do and thought about which ones didn’t bring me joy, or that I truly didn’t have time to be doing. This is when you have to be the most honest with yourself. For me at least two of the things I said I wasn’t going to do anymore: large events and Poshmark. I love planning events and hosting people in my home. However, the two large parties we do at the end of the year were just way too much for me in 2018. I found that I wasn’t feeling the fun and joy I had in the past. It was tiring, tedious, and actually left me frustrated. This is simply not healthy, so I said no more to them this year.
One thing that helped me really flip the light switch was when I caught myself saying, “Well, if I don’t do it, no one else will.” Then it hit me, WHO CARES?! If other people want to have these parties, they can plan them, they can host them! I had to tell myself that I do not have to be the only one doing all of these things, and if some of them don’t happen, it’s fine and the world is going to keep right on turning.
As for Poshmark, when I first started I felt like I was doing great and selling items, but then it slowed down. I tried keeping up with sharing items, sharing my own listings, etc. I have two kids, and a busy enough life, yet I still really thought that I could maintain this as well. Truth be told, I couldn’t. This app takes a lot of time and you have to share your listings almost constantly to continue to make sales. Now, please don’t get me wrong here this app can be wonderful if you have the time to focus on it! Once we added our second daughter I just didn’t have the time, and I had to be honest with myself about it. I loved the aspect of making a little extra money, and when I had the time, I did! I just knew that for me, it was time to turn my focus to other areas. I had to let go of some of this stress.
We are only two weeks into the new year, and I must say, I am already feeling so much better in many different areas of my life. Doing a personal life audit was hard at first, but I am so thankful that I was able to sit down and be completely honest with myself. I took the time to remind myself that just because I was letting go of some tasks, I in no way was a failure because of them. I am choosing a better, healthier life style, and that is a win in my book!
I want you to go do the same now. Take some time this week to sit down and really look at what is on your schedule, what things are you trying to do that you can let go of? Are you volunteering up your time a little too much? Saying yes a little too quickly? Trying to do way too many things at once? It is time to take back some of YOUR time and ease your stress.
I’ll be back soon with some others way we are going to get our lives together! Stay well, stay happy!