5 Ways To Show Your Man You Still Love Him


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No matter how long you have been in a relationship, there is always the need to remind your partner how much love them. If you have a boyfriend or husband who has been feeling neglected recently, here are some great ways to remind them how much you care.

Be romantic

You know what turns your partner on, so surprise him with a romantic evening. Whether it’s setting the mood in your home, with candles and a bed coated in rose petals, or taking a walk under the stars, it is the thought that counts. Wear that sexy outfit he enjoys, treat him to the food he loves, and offer him a night of unbridled passion.

Visit somewhere he enjoys

You have probably dragged your partner around the shopping mall on several occasions, but chances are this is not his location of choice. Think about the places he enjoys visiting, such as the cinema, the beach or a hike in the country. Relationships are all about compromise, so while it would be great to visit a place you mutually enjoy, grit your teeth if he chooses something else, such as the vintage car museum!

Offer him a massage

After a long day at work, your partner may arrive home stressed and in need of relaxation. Show your appreciation by giving him a long, intimate massage. Use oil, so your hands glide smoothly over his body, and apply pressure on his pent up muscles. Have calm, relaxing music playing in the background, and scented candles situated around the room.

Buy him something nice

Whatever he is into, buy him something that will make him happy. Check here for

gift ideas specifically for men, and perhaps purchase something you can both enjoy together. Men enjoy gadgets, be it the latest games console, or tablet. It may not be your idea of a good time, but show consideration for his wants and not yours.

Communicate your love

Whether your partner is at home or work, remind him through words of your love. Be daring and send flirty text messages. Whisper sweet nothings when you are both out with friends. Compliment him on his appearance and give him a boost to his self-confidence when he does something well. If he prepares dinner one evening, but it didn’t go as planned, don’t criticize but tell him it tasted great anyway (then suggest you might both go out for a meal next time).

We don’t only communicate with words. Use your hands to convey affection, and look lovingly into his eyes when you are with him. Sometimes actions speak louder than words so surprise him when you can.

Finally, you don’t always need to be the one doing the talking. Listen to him when he tells you about his day, and try and be genuinely interested in what he is saying. Take an interest in the subjects he enjoys, such as sport or movies, and have conversations with him about them. He listens to you, so be there for him.




More Interesting Gifts For Men

Buying gifts for men can be a real struggle. Every time you ask what they want, you’ll just get a grunt and the occasional ‘I don’t mind’. That would be fine if it were true, but you know that they are going to be disappointed if they don’t like the gifts that you get them. A lot of the time, men end up getting lumbered with socks or a new tie every birthday because nobody knows what else to buy for them. It doesn’t have to be anything amazing, just something a bit different for once. If you are struggling to buy a gift for one of the men in your life, here are a few ideas for something a bit more unusual that might surprise them.  




Suit Pajamas


The suit pajamas that first shot to fame after they were worn by How I Met Your Mother’s Barney Stinson ae a great novelty gift. Everybody loves to look good, and now you can look great even when you’re in bed.


Ballpark Blueprints


Sports-related gifts are always a fairly safe bet for most men, and something a bit more personal is usually a hit. Ballpark blueprints are a great combination of the two; you can get a custom made blueprint of their favorite baseball or football stadium and have it framed.


Grooming Gifts


It might not be the most exciting thing for a gift but you can be sure that they’ll be grateful for it. Go to places like Manly Matters for great reviews on male grooming products. Shaver’s are a good choice, as well as beard grooming kits, if he has a beard of course. If you are going to get grooming products, make sure that you get something good quality and not just a cheap supermarket shower-gel kit.


Personalized Superhero Action Figures


If he’s a fan of the Marvel movies, then this is the perfect gift for them. It’s about as close as they can get to being a real-life superhero without putting on a pair of tights. You simply need to send in a photograph of them and choose which superhero you want and they’ll send you back an action figure that looks just like them.


Bacon Salt


Everything is made better with bacon, and salt is no exception. Help him get his bacon fix wherever and whenever with bacon salt. It can be added to anything you like to get that delicious crispy bacon flavor.


Man Crates


A lot of men might be a bit perturbed if they received a nice gift basket complete with ribbons and frills. That’s where the man crate comes in. Instead of an intricate basket, it comes in a wooden box. You can fill it with all sorts of smaller gifts to ensure that there’s at least something that he’ll like. You can custom choose your own or you can pick certain themes.


Survival Bracelet


A great gift for somebody that loves camping is the survival bracelet. When you’re wearing it, it’s a very sleek black bracelet that you would hardly notice. But it turns into an excellent survival device once you remove it. It’s a sixteen foot parachute cord that also has a fire starting device attached.


Make Any Event That Little Bit Fancier

It doesn’t matter whether it’s a birthday or an anniversary – whenever it is time to celebrate something, you will probably want to make sure that you do it in style. As it happens, there is always a way to make that happen, just so long as you are happy to change a few of the details around. But what can you really do to make any event much more special, especially if you are keen on not spending too much money in the process? Let’s have a look at some of the easiest and cheapest ways to make any event that little bit fancier for you and everyone else involved.


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Get There In Style


Wherever you might be going, there is a lot to be said for getting there in style. You might not even have considered this to begin with – people frequently overlook this aspect of the process, and it means that their evening is not as special as it could be. Actually, getting to the party or whatever it might be in style is pretty easy to do if you know how. One of the most popular ways to do this is to hire a limo using a service like this limo rental from Bergen Limo. You might be surprised at how cheaply and easily you can actually find a limo these days – and it will definitely be worth it when you arrive in it. Of course, this is not your only option. Increasingly, people are using horse and carriage for special occasions – these have a way of lending a certain old-world charm to any event. However you do it, upgrading your transport can help you to make the most of pretty much any occasion.


Dressing Up


Whatever it might be, you always want to look your best. But knowing how to do that is something else altogether. In part, this is because you need to be careful about choosing your outfit, as it needs to fit well with the occasion itself. But you also need to make sure that you are comfortable with whatever you are wearing. Comfort really is key – without it, you can’t be sure that you are going to enjoy the day as a whole, and that is what you are going for above all. Spend some time finding the ideal outfit, perhaps including some jewelry just for the occasion, and you should find that this makes a huge difference to the day.


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The Right People


Finally, let’s not forget what a difference it makes to have the right people on board. If you are not nearly happy or close to the people you invite, then this can unfortunately very quickly spoil any occasion. However, as long as you are happy with the people you are sharing the experience with. You will find that you enjoy it all the more. Be careful about who you invite, and do so sensibly, and you will make for a much better day.

Don’t Let the Plights of Old Age Hold You Back

Ageing perfectly is everybody’s dream. Everybody wants to age well in some form or another, whether they openly admit it or not. Everybody wants to be complimented and praised for their youthful appearance. But ageing well in regards to appearance is not the only thing you should care about as you enter your twilight years. No, what you should also care about is that you don’t let the plights of old age stop you from living. These plights, such as injuries and illnesses that are specifically induced by old age, should never be accepted without a fight. And there are plenty of things to help you fight them! Below are just a few of them.

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As you age you shouldn’t lose your ability to smile wherever, and whenever you want. That is a right that all humans should be afforded — young or old — and you should never be held back from doing it. Sometimes, however, the impact that ageing has on the teeth can mean they can weaken, damage and even fall out. And when this happens to a person it can mean that they are then not confident enough to smile anymore. It is for this reason that the plight of old age that is weakening teeth should be fought. And one of the best ways to fight this is to have implants, such  as those provided by All on 4 Dental Implants, fitted. They seek to restore their patient’s teeth to their full potential. Subsequently, this means their patient’s smiles are restored to their full potential also!


And as you age you shouldn’t stand for losing your ability to see absolutely everything around you at all times. Like it does with the teeth, ageing has a detrimental effect on the eyes. But there are a number of ways to protect your vision as you age — one way is to make changes to your diet. If this is a venture you wish to take, then cereals with whole grain should be atop of your next shopping list. You should also put foods that are a good source of protein on your list too. And when it comes to cooking, you need to do so in a way that brings out the very best in each dish. Specifically, you need to cook in a way that makes fats as healthy as can be. By making these sorts of changes to your diet you are giving yourself the best chance of fighting the bad eyesight induced by old age.


Old age naturally brings with it a whole host of plights in the form of illnesses and injuries. And as you age you shouldn’t stand for them. Just because these types of ailments are natural, it doesn’t give them the right to hold you back from living. It doesn’t mean they have the right to hold you back from doing anything you enjoyed doing during your younger years. So, do all you can to stop the plight of old age holding you back, and you’ll live a happier elderly life for it.


Making A Gift Is Passé, It’s All About Surprising Now

Who doesn’t like receiving a gift? Everybody loves a gift. But it’s even better when the gift is unexpected. When it is a complete surprise that comes to make your day a little sweeter. The beauty of a surprise is that it immediately brings you back to your younger self. The surprise is the most direct way to your inner child. Do you remember him or her? It’s the innocent part of you that still wants to be amazed by the wonders of the world and play on the first occasion. While the fast pace of the adult life often pushes your inner child further away at the back of mind, you can be sure that a playful and cute surprise will bring him or her to the front. Time for laughter, fun, and amazement again, with fun surprises that you can make to your friends and relatives to smooth out their day. The good thing about surprises is that you don’t need a reason for it – that’s why they’re called a surprise. So here are a few ideas.


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Delight The Future Mother With An Unexpected Afternoon

A mother-to-be tends to receive a multitude of cute baby clothes and baby equipment. Often, you have two different ways of making a present: You could do it during the baby shower party – if there is one – or you could wait until you meet the baby for the first time. Why stick to the classic timing and presents when you could be creative? Your pregnant friend would appreciate spending an afternoon with friends like in the old days. Pregnant women, while they are always excited about having a baby, often feel that they are being treated with extreme caution by relatives and friends.They are worried that having a baby might come in between them and their friends. Spend an afternoon together, sharing sweet drinks and cakes while gossiping about the town news and the everyday life. It’s the best way to show them that you’re still friends!  


Make Someone’s Day A Little Better At Work

If you know of a friend who is having a stressful week or who is overworked, while not surprise them with a flower delivery to their office? It’s guaranteed to brighten up their day. Of course, it doesn’t take the stress away. But it will remind them that, whatever happens, you are thinking of them. The office delivery works with a box of chocolates too, by the way. So you are sure to find something for everyone!


Welcome Him Tonight And Revive His Playfulness

Do you remember the first weeks of your relationship, when everything was new and exciting? Long-term relationships can become part of the everyday routine, and while there is still a lot of love and tenderness, everything becomes a habit. So, why not break out of the routine vicious circle and surprise him for a romantic scavenger hunt tonight? All you need is to prepare the clues for him to follow, leading him to dinner… or to a hotel, if you are feeling adventurously naughty.


Make Your Home THE Staycation Destination

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Are you fed up the long queues, overzealous security staff, and flights where you’re squeezed into a tiny space for hours at a time? Instead of traveling away from home this year, why not treat yourself to a fantastic staycation instead? Here’s how you can use the money you would have spent on a trip to transform your home into the best place to holiday this summer:


Revamp Your Outdoor Space


Just because you won’t be traveling to a far-flung destination, doesn’t mean you can’t spend your summer relaxing in the sun, weather permitting. Spend some of your budget on transforming your garden into a relaxing entertainment space, and it’ll be just like lounging on an exotic beach.


As a minimum, you should set up a hammock, fire pit, and barbecue area, along with a seating area with enough comfy furniture for you and a few select guests. A gazebo might also be good and will allow you to spend more time outdoors, whatever the weather.


Create a Restful Nook

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Whether you have a spare room that you can totally transform into a restful retreat, or you only have a nook in the living room to transform into a comfy space, finding a restful nook that you can fill with comfy cushions, a supportive armchair and footrest is essential if you want to be able to relax and rejuvenate during your staycation.


Set Yourself Up for Entertainment


When you’re enjoying a staycation, most of your days will be spent relaxing in your outdoor space or your restful nook, but when night time rolls around, you will want to ensure that you have plenty of entertainment on hand. That’s why you should consider investing in the best tv under 1000 you can find so that you can enjoy movie nights, a wireless speaker, so you can enjoy your favorite music and all the supplies that you need to indulge in your favorite hobbies. So, when you’re not sampling the best the local restaurants have to offer, you’re never in danger of getting bored.



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It’s difficult to relax and truly enjoy the luxury of your own home if your property isn’t exactly inspiring. So, start looking at home décor websites, collect as many cool ideas for home improvements as you can find and start painting, wallpapering and rearranging your furniture to give your home more of a relaxing 5-star beach hotel feel. You needn’t spend much – just adding a new coat of paint or buying new sheets for your bed can make a huge difference – but do take the time to change things up and make your space more comfy before your staycation rolls around.


Bring Your Favorite Vacation Destination to Your Home


Last, but not least, once you’ve redesigned the garden and redecorated your home to make it more comfy and luxurious, you should think about adding little touches that remind you of your favorite destinations. Things like adding beach umbrellas to the garden or burning exotic incense in the bedroom will help you to feel like you’ve really escaped and this will aid your relaxation and ensure that your staycation is just as good as a real vacation.


Top Tips To Turn Your Home From Shabby to Chic

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The general maintenance of our homes can be a real upkeep. The little cracks in the walls, broken cabinets, scuffed skirting boards and old window sills are all details that can creep up on us. Keeping our homes looking in tip top condition can sometimes feel like a second job and can feel overwhelming when we look around and see that there’s so much to do.


Well fret no longer. Today we are pleased to share with you some super simple tricks on how to fix those little details, get stuck into a little DIY and transform your home from shabby to chic in no time at all.


Start With Paintwork


Old and tired paintwork can make all the difference to the look and feel of your home. So giving your home a well deserved lick of paint is one of the best things you can do if you feel like your home is looking a little bit sorry for itself. Put some thought into the different colours you think would best reflect the style of your home, and the mood of each room that you want to achieve, before you even think of picking up a paintbrush.


Neutral walls are usually the most popular colours as they create a great background canvass for us then to be able to add colour in other more interchangeable decorative areas of our home. But there are endless variations of white, cream and eggshell so put a little research into the different colour options that you prefer. Painting one wall in a room in a really bold colour is an interesting idea to add a bit of personality and style to your living spaces. A deep red wall in a living room, a duck egg blue bathroom wall or a dusky pink wall in your bedroom could add a whole new dynamic to your living spaces and make them feel much more interesting and unique.


Skirting Boards


Skirting boards are a really important area of our homes to keep an eye on. It’s easy for them to look old and become loose and as they are an important frame to our rooms, keeping them in good condition is essential in maintaining an attractive home. If you have any marks on your skirting boards it’s high time to give them a new coat of paint. Covering the top and bottom of the boards with masking tape will make sure you don’t paint outside your skirting boards, onto the walls and the floors.


If you have any loose skirting boards or any that have fallen off it’s time to get them secured down once and for all. There are special wood seal glues that are designed purely for DIY jobs such as this and make the task at hand really easy and quick. Investing in a glue gun to make the job even easier is a good idea so look online at companies like Glue Guns Direct to see what models are available for the job you need doing.


Reinvent Old Furniture


Look around your home and look at any old, dark furniture that perhaps is pulling down the overall decor of your home. You’d be surprised at how many weird and wonderful ways there are of taking your old furniture and decorating them so that they look modern, fresh and bring an entirely different look to your home.


An old chest of drawers can be bought back to life by painting the drawers different colours. By painting each drawer a different colour you will add vibrancy and energy to a boring and basic chest of drawers. Sorry looking bedside tables can be instantly transformed into Parisian chic by whitewashing them so that they look like they’ve been picked up in a trendy French flea market.


Old dining room tables can be sanded down and painted rich mahogany wood and then varnished over for extra shine. Neglected corner tables can be transformed by painting just the surface or just the legs in a colour that would compliment the overall colour scheme of that room. Tired looking bathroom cabinets can be given a pretty look by painting just the frame and the sides a tranquil, calming colour or even in nautical stripes if you’re feeling particularly creative.


The process of transforming the old furniture in your home is really fun and is a really cheap, well actually practically free, way of breathing new life into your home and adding special touches here and there that will make a big difference.




Reupholstering furniture is another really cost-effective way of transforming your furniture without having to start from scratch and go and buy new. Our sofas naturally age over time so it’s natural to look at them after a few years and feel that they are dragging down the look and feel of our living rooms. However reupholstering furniture is a much cheaper solution to buying new and offer fantastic creativity when choosing the colours, textiles and patterns you feel will best suit the overall style of your living room. Research online different sofas that you like and you feel would fit well into your home and then go to your local upholstery company and talk them through your ideas and see what they can do.


It’s All In The Detail


The rest is really up to you. No one knows what needs doing around your home better than you, and we all tend to have some rooms that needs a little more TLC than others. Kitchens can always benefit from tip top organisation. Deep rolling kitchen drawers always help keep our kitchens organised and clutter free. Cute spice, oil and vinegars racks keep the items we need close at hand, within arms reach, but as an attractive feature rather than scattered around, untidily on our kitchen surfaces.


Bathrooms are rooms that should feel calming and tranquil and can always benefit from new rugs, curtains and towels every couple of years. Due to the humidity in this room, the textiles in this room tend to age much quicker than in any other room.


Bedrooms and living rooms are all about ambience and looking inviting and cosy. With the above in mind and some little touches like pretty candles, low-lit lamps, chic mirrors and attractive rugs your home can look chic and sophisticated in no time at all.

Weird Things You Never Knew Could Improve Your Insulin Sensitivity


Diabetes is an unfortunate reality for millions of people worldwide. Currently, it’s the world’s fastest growing chronic disease condition and one of the biggest causes of morbidity with nearly 400 million people expected to suffer from the disease by 2030.


Diabetes is caused when the body’s sensitivity to insulin is reduced. Eating too much fat, meat and sugar in combination lead to higher levels of fat inside cells. These fat-engorged cells then become less efficient at extracting sugar from the blood, requiring more and more insulin. Higher levels of insulin, in turn, promote more weight gain and fat storage, leading to a cycle that can result in obesity and diabetes.


The good news is that there is a lot that you can do to prevent diabetes by improving your insulin sensitivity and putting your pancreas under less strain. Check out these ideas.


Trick #1: Hug Somebody You Love


In the West, we’ve gotten used to the idea that there’s a separation between the mind and the body. It’s called the “mind-body” duality, and it has a significant impact on the way we think about the world. In essence, it’s the idea that our thoughts don’t affect the world around us. No matter how much we want to levitate our cars and fly them across town to work, reality won’t oblige.




But when it comes to the body, Western thinking has taken this mind-body duality too far. While it’s true that our minds can manipulate external physical reality, they can cause knock-on effects within our body. Science is showing that how we think really can affect how our bodies function.


Take insulin sensitivity, for instance. It can be increased by a chemical called oxytocin, something that our bodies secrete during positive social interactions. Without this chemical, insulin sensitivity actually declines, which might be why people who live by themselves have worse health outcomes than those who don’t. Researchers tested the theory by spraying extra oxytocin up people’s noses to see if it had an effect. But you don’t need to carry around nasal spray with you all day long to stave off diabetes. All you need are things like hugs, great conversations and lots of sex.


Trick #2: Sleep In A Hammock




Bed sleeping has become the norm for most people living in Europe and North America. But research has shown that hammock sleeping might actually be better for you. It’s long been known that getting a good night’s sleep helps improve insulin sensitivity. Sleep helps us cells clear out all the junk which can get in the way of the insulin signal. It also helps us resist snacking on junk food throughout the day. Now researchers have shown that the same is true for sleeping in a hammock, perhaps to an even greater extent.


Trick #3: Cook With Ginger And Garlic


Ginger and garlic are delicious to cook with and provide the basis for Chinese and Indian cooking. But they’re also incredibly good for you. Ginger is actually a part of the same family of vegetables as turmeric – a spice which has dozens of purported health benefits. Garlic is great too, helping to maintain a balanced microbiome. Both ginger and garlic have also been shown to help with insulin sensitivity and diabetes in the lab. Ginger, for instance, helps many type 2 diabetic patients regain their insulin sensitivity, partially reversing their condition. Garlic has also been shown to be beneficial in animal experiments, helping fructose-fed rats do the same.


Trick #4: Meditate


Remember what we said about “mind-body” duality? Well, nothing quite breaks down the barriers between the two more than meditation. The reason meditation has been practiced by Eastern cultures for millennia is that it has life-affirming and improving outcomes. Science has shown that it helps to reduce the levels of hormones in the body, like the stress hormone cortisol, which can be damaging if they remain at too high a level for too long.


Meditation also helps to get the body out of the “fight or flight” state, something which temporarily increases the amount of sugar in the blood stream (just in case it is needed to run away from a threat). This reduces the amount of insulin required, helping to improve insulin sensitivity in the process.


Trick #5: Drink Plenty Of Tea


Insulin resistance occurs when insulin molecules come knocking on the cellular door, but the cell doesn’t allow any sugar in causing levels in the bloodstream to spike. Researchers have shown, however, that green tea reduces insulin resistance in people with type 2 diabetes, allowing them to take fewer insulin shots.


Has Photography Overtaken Content In Blogging?

The first blogs were about words. They rarely had pictures, and if they did, they were badly lit and often out of focus. Blogging was an extension of keeping a journal, only one where you let others behind the scenes.


Blogging in 2017 is very, very different. Now, it’s hard to see past the amount of images available – and what stunning images they are. From the beautifully curated Instagram grids to the product review photos bathed in light; blog photography has changed. It’s gone from a quick snap in the back garden to an industry in and of itself, involving shoot locations for that perfect background, complicated DSLR cameras, and studio lighting props nestled into bloggers’ bedrooms.


It all leads to the thought… what’s more important in modern blogging – is it the words or the photography?

When you look at the major bloggers, the big players whose site is their entire career, then you’d be forgiven for assuming that it’s photography that has stolen the crown. Posts often contain multiple images from a million different angles. Now we don’t read reviews of beauty products, we look at the pictures, the swatches, the comparisons to previous releases. The words are there and we’ll scan them, but we won’t do the reverse and read the words without studying the pictures.


Nevertheless, text is still there. Even on Instagram – the home of photography – people use text to talk, engage, and explore the platform. People still write long blog posts and they still get shared; there’s an appetite for both.


If you blog, the key seems to be to know what matters. If you’re writing a highly personal post, then the photography doesn’t matter as much. A couple of stock photos or basics you have snapped will suffice, just to break up the text if nothing else.


However, if you’re reviewing something or talking about a holiday you have taken, then the photos become all the more important. People don’t want to just hear about what an item looks like, they want to see it in action, see if it comes off as well in your photos as it does the highly-altered brand photos.


This is all the more important for fashion bloggers. Photos of clothes we see at online stores and as physical mannequins… they’re pretty much useless. They’re being displayed on models for a start, and then they will go through a PhotoShop process that makes them look even better.


One of the reasons fashion bloggers have risen to prominence (to the point of attending runway shows that were once the reserve of the fashion magazine elite) is that they are relatable. Real clothes in real situations, worn by real people. If you want to fashion blog but don’t much care for photography, it’s going to be an uphill battle.

As always, the answer to the question at hand is: “both”. While photographs are becoming more and more influential – especially for particular blogging niches – there is still a need for high-quality content, written by people with a talent for writing. There’s room for everyone!


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Why Put Yourself On Paper?

The entirety of your life cannot be summed up by a few words on a piece of paper. We all know that. We’re complex, sometimes contradictory and often confusing creatures. But if we want to get the best out of life, clearing up that confusion can be important. And doing a little personal audit is one of the best ways to do that.

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Keep sight of your goals

Goals are funny things. They should get us excited and motivated but a lot of the time, when we think about them, we end up getting depressed because they seem so far. That’s because we don’t give them the focus they deserve. The stresses and responsibilities of life get in the way and out priorities slip. That’s why it’s important, every now and then, to make a list of goals yourself. Put down your long-term aims and the short-term steps you’re taking to get closer to them.

Get the truth of relationships

If being one person is confusing enough, then wanting to permanently (or at least on a long-term basis) throw someone else in there can double the confusion. It’s a lot worse if you don’t figure out the truth of what you want, however. Many people don’t really know what they’re looking for in a relationship. They have standards, but not goals. Now is the time to list out the truly most important qualities you look for in a part. If you’re unsure, then it could be a good idea to use a little divine guidance like readings from http://astrostyle.com. Ignore the trivial and the superficial for now. Think beliefs, behaviors, and virtues like compassion, decency, or motivation.

Take stock

Looking at what you want from the future is important. However, if you don’t give yourself credit then all you see are unticked boxes and no achievements. Taking stock of your life, as recommended at http://www.skillsyouneed.com is essential. If you don’t see and believe in your own achievement, it’s all too easy to think that you genuinely can’t achieve anything. Congratulate yourself when you deserve it and use the positivity as fuel to keep going.

Be truly self-aware

A lot of people think they understand themselves pretty well. They think about times they’ve been brave, times when they’ve been stupid, all the big moments that they think make the sum of their life and personality. But those aren’t really what make you who you are. Being mindful, paying real awareness to how you interact with the world and how others react to you or situations they’re in can give you the real skinny on the most common of your characteristics. You need to be more present in the world to truly better understand yourself, listing characteristics you could change or capitalize on. Soul-searching is just navel-gazing if you’re ignorant of the people around you.

The next time you’re feeling in a rut or wondering what you’re doing with life, get out a couple pieces of paper. You will feel a lot better when you express what you want, what you’re proud of, and what you can fix. It can give you the focus to take action and sort your life out if only a little bit.